You Go First
You Go First
This one is short.
We often say to the Universe or whatever we happen to think is "out there", You go first. I'll be happy when I get something from you. I'll be relaxed when all the work is done. I'll focus on feeling good when you give me something to feel good about. Except that's not how it works. We are the point of creation. When we lead, the "out there" follows.
Be happy. Right now. In spite of everything. In the face of. Radically. Be a rebel for happiness. Happiness is something that comes from the inside out. It's not from circumstances.
We are always the leader. The Universe is always the follower. Have a glad heart, and you will see gladness in the world.
It's the same with all kinds of things. Go looking with curiosity for a quiet mind within you. The outside will begin to look quiet. Go looking for happiness within you. The outside will start to reflect happiness back to you. Go looking for peace, safety, or joy. You will start to see them everywhere.
It's why when we go looking for negative things, it's what we find. My friend said the other day, "You know how you can't trust men not to be violent against women?" I realized that I tended to trust men to be protectors. And so, the men in my life were. She had a long list of men she knew who were violent. It's what showed up in the way she was leading. I don't say this in a sense of blaming. She had had a random bad experience early on in her twenties and just kept expecting the same thing. And so, it was all she saw.
The way to begin is to decide you can't go on the way you have been anymore. Radically decide. I am going to see and look for ____. Whatever it is you want more of. Then, with playful wonder, recognize it when it shows up and dismiss (with common sense) anything other than what you want.
You are the one who goes first.
With Love,
Sara Joy
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